"Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will."—Suzy Kassem That's been a quote that has resonated heavily with me lately. And, especially considering we are at the beginning of a new year, where hopes are high, and focusing on goals is the top of everyone's priority list right now, it seemed like a good time to chat about something that will help us all get further than ever before. I've had quite a few conversations with people in the past few weeks, people who want better things for themselves, but seem to not know where to start, and it's an interesting thing to try and give a piece of advice to, as I think people moreso want to know what type of business they should start, or something similar, but I think 99% of achieving anything in life is to believe that you can. Start with that. Don't worry about the details, focus the bigger picture.
If you just write down goals, but you don't fuel them with anything, how will they ever become anything bigger? How can you want more for yourself, while you simultaneously tear yourself down, and question your own abilities the whole way? It simply won't work.
There's no question what a bit of self-love can help you to accomplish whatever you want in life. Think about one of the greatest athletes of all time, Muhammad Ali—when did we ever hear anything from him other than, "I'm the greatest,"—and, there's a reason he went on to actually fulfill that destiny, he never once gave up on himself. There's examples like that all through out history, and it's typically the ones who believe whole-heartedly that they are great, that are the ones who actually go on to achieve greatness.
I think society has a not-so-sneaky way of making us feel insecure, and unworthy of anything other than what we already have; that we should be grateful just to even be alive, and anything extra is, well, extra. I don't believe that anymore; I used to think that everything was beyond my control, that I was stuck with what I had, and that I only had one choice in life—I don't feel like that any longer. I feel like possibilities are endless, and will only cease to exist once I stop believing that.
The problem with society is that it will gleefully shoot down anyone with the gumption to loudly claim their self-belief as 'cocky', or 'arrogant'—but is it really arrogance to be your biggest fan? Who else in society is really rooting for you? Who else in this world has your back 100% of the time? So, why when your self-esteem is high, or you want something better, do you believe you don't deserve it? I honestly think it's more accepted to be self-deprecating than it is to be proud of ones self. We really have to stop letting the world continue conditioning us to think we can't shine.
So, this is my reminder for everyone out there with a goal, no matter how big or small, to go for it with 100% pure faith that you can do it. I want you to be amazed how much you can accomplish when you hush the negative voices in your own mind, and externally.
Achieve greatness in 2015, and beyond.
Jacket: Zara // Sweater: Adidas Originals // Skirt: Forever 21 // Boots: Shoedazzle // Purse: 3.1 Phillip Lim x Target // Ear Jacket: Forever 21 // Hair extensions: c/o Kurly Klips // Rings: Etsy, H&M, Forever 21
'Belief + Doubt' by Barbara Kruger, Hirshhorn Museum, Washington DC
Photography by Christopher Cain